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In this newsletter, the author discusses various topics including learning, the mindset of a farmer, letting go, and recommended books. They emphasize the importance of perseverance in learning and the need to deeply understand a skill. The author also discusses the mindset of a farmer, which teaches acceptance and focusing on what can be controlled. They mention the concept of letting go and the importance of considering what needs to be sacrificed in order to achieve goals. The author recommends the book "12 Rules for Life" and highlights the importance of paying attention to children and maintaining a clean living space before complaining about the world. They also mention their interest in positive psychology and the idea of learning about it even when not experiencing negative emotions. The newsletter concludes with a thank you to readers.

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Random Walk Newsletter, Issue 29 ~ The Farther Away from the Crowd, the Closer to Yourself#

Hello everyone, today is the twenty-ninth day of the twelfth lunar month, and tomorrow is New Year's Eve. It's the last working day and also happens to be Friday. I would like to take this opportunity to wish you all a Happy New Year and good health in the Year of the Rabbit.

Recently, while watching a program, I heard a phrase that I decided to use as the title: "The Farther Away from the Crowd, the Closer to Yourself."

Observations & Insights#

About Learning
Before many people want to learn a certain skill, the most common question they ask is, "How do I learn? Can you recommend a good method?" Recently, I came across a viewpoint: "If there are many learning methods available in the market for something you want to learn, then the most important thing to learn it is perseverance, not the method."

Just go ahead and do it, and avoid the mistake of having high expectations but low skills.

If you want to master a skill, you need to delve into it. For example, if you want to learn how to cook a dish, you can't just taste the flavor; you need to have a clear understanding of the ingredients.

Farmer's Mentality
Let me ask you a question: if the crops in the field are not growing well, will the farmer shouting at them help? You must find it ridiculous to shout at crops. How could that possibly work?

Now, let's change the question. If you write an article and shout at the readers, even though the target has become a person, will it be effective? If you are selling something and shout at the customers, blaming them for not buying, will it work?

Therefore, the farmer's mentality reminds us to understand the characteristics and laws of things, accept things that we cannot change, avoid getting angry, and start doing things that we can control. (It's somewhat similar to the theory of Stoicism.)

Letting Go
From James Clear's Newsletter:

"At the end of each year, I ask myself two questions:

  1. What do I want to create in this New Year?

And, perhaps even more importantly,
2) What do I want to let go of?"

When we set goals, we often think about what we want to achieve. But have you ever considered what you are willing to give up in order to obtain that thing? In fact, the latter is even more important. Sacrifice is necessary for gain.

Listen & Read#

12 Rules for Life
I haven't read this book, but I came across some related content in another article and recorded a few points that I found useful.

  1. Pay attention to your children. As a father, I naturally agree with this viewpoint. The author says that if your child is sharing something with you, you must put down your phone and listen attentively, unless you want them to stop telling you anything in the future.
  2. Clean your own room before complaining about the world.

20 Lectures on Life's Confusions
I have been listening to this book on WeChat Reading recently. The content feels a bit like a mixed bag, but I have gained some insights. I heard a segment about the early development of positive psychology. In fact, positive psychology originated from research on learned helplessness. When most people focus on the dog that lies there whimpering after being shocked, there are still a few dogs that jump out of the cage. What does this indicate?

One point that can be derived from this is that in most cases, we only think about psychology when we have difficulty controlling negative emotions. I am the same way. For example, when I feel that my recent emotions are problematic or my thoughts are deviating, I actively seek out psychology books to read and find answers. This is normal.

But perhaps we can also consider why we can't learn some psychology when we are not experiencing negative emotions, such as positive psychology. We don't have to wait until there is a problem to feel the need for it, just like we always say that we should pay attention to maintaining physical health in our daily lives and not wait until we get sick to start taking it seriously. Prevention is better than cure. The same applies to the psychological aspect.

That's all for this issue of the Newsletter. If you have any questions, please feel free to email me. Thank you for reading.

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